Speed Dating: 3 Simple Tips to Help You Stand Out

One of the most popular ways of seeking a date is by joining speed dating events. They’re fun, simple, and safe. However, standing out and finding a date in a speed dating event is not easy. Sometimes, you’ll end up going home early instead of having fun. To help you change that, here are three simple tips that can make you stand out in the next speed dating event you join:

1. What you wear matters.

You don’t have to be supermodel sexy to attract attention, but you do have to dress up well. If you are familiar with the venue, dress accordingly. If it’s your first time to go there, dress appropriately; in other words, don’t show too much skin or wear anything skimpy. You should be comfortable with what you are wearing. If you put on a body-hugging red dress but are not comfortable wearing it, you won’t get the looks you want. So dress comfortably and appropriately.

2. Don’t be late.

Be at the venue as early as you can. You have two reasons to do so: first, being early will give you plus points; second, if you’re early, you’ll have the chance to observe and socialize before the actual speed dating starts. You don’t have to talk to someone from the opposite sex, but it will be good if you try. It might give you an edge as you’ll feel a bit comfortable later on. You’ll be able to relax early on.

3. Be creative with your questions.

In speed dating, you go around the room and meet different people. You’ll sit down for a few minutes and talk to him/her; just a few minutes. So it is important for you to ask the right questions to make a good impact. Don’t open the conversation by asking typical questions like: “Where do you work?” or “How are you tonight?”. Please be as creative as you can be. Ask questions that will make him/her remember you long after the event is done. If you’re a pilot of a flight attendant, you can open the conversation by asking, “Have you ever traveled on an airplane?”. Then you can follow it up with something related to his/her answer.


Why You Should Write Love Letters: 3 Good Reasons

In this day and age, writing letters has become a forgotten art. People are too lazy to write a letter now because the electronic mail is faster and more convenient. Some also prefer sending their message through chat, by using their social media accounts, or by sending a text message. Sadly, the pen and paper combination has been pushed to the backseat.

But all is not lost because a lot of people are also into collecting pens, journals, and stationeries. So maybe the art of love letter writing still has hope. Yes, there’s nothing like being told “I love you” through a love letter. The feeling is just indescribable. There are a lot of reasons why you should consider writing a love letter instead of wooing your special someone through Facebook Messenger or by text messaging. Here are three good ones:

1. The person you are sending the love letter to will feel extra special.

If he/she receives a Facebook message or a text from you, he/she may feel special, but not as special as when you send a love letter in your handwriting. He/she will feel extra special because you went out of your way to give him/her something that you made. Writing a love letter is not easy. You cannot just copy and paste what you want to say. You cannot delete a word or paragraph when you make a mistake. You cannot save it and then finish it later; you have to finish your letter as soon as you can.

2. No matter how short your message is, it will be appreciated. It will put a smile on his/her face.

Two or three lines sincerely written are all it takes to get your message across. You don’t have to write novel-length letters to put a smile on someone’s face. Simply writing, “Hi, ______! Just want you to know I remembered you today. So I decided to send you this letter to let you know, and to tell you how special you are to me.” No drama, no hysterics. Just words that mean a lot.

3. Love letters bring out the creative you.

When writing a love letter, you will find yourself drawn to your creative side. You’ll want your letter to not only contain a special message but also to look beautiful. Therefore, you will want to experiment and test your creativity. Maybe you can add some fun doodle on the paper, or maybe you can make your own fancy envelope. This will make your recipient feel even more special.


Are You Shy? These 4 Tips Will Help You Overcome Shyness

You like someone, and you want to go on a date with this someone. The problem is, you’re too shy! You don’t even know his/her name. You only know that he/she gets off from work at five in the afternoon. You know which restaurant he/she goes to at lunch. And you even know which subway he/she runs off to after work. But that’s it; that’s all you can do. Because you’re too shy.

There’s no need to worry now, though, because there are things you can do that can help you overcome your shyness.

1. Focus your energy on positive thoughts.

One of the things that contribute to your shyness is negative thinking. Erase all negative thoughts from your mind; from your life. It won’t be easy, but it can be done. Think of happy thoughts and people you love. Think of things you like and those that make you happy. And tell yourself that you are special and extraordinary. Write all these on a notebook or pad so you can easily read them every day. These are your affirmations. If you read or chant them every day, they will echo through your whole being until they eventually invade your thoughts and feelings.

2. Observe yourself in a video.

One of the best ways to see how others may perceive you to be is by making a video of yourself. Find a quiet place at home (or in the office, if you dare!), turn on your camera (DSLR or mobile phone cam will do), and start talking into it. Talk about anything. Don’t plan your actions or what you say. Just let yourself be. When you’re done, play the video and observe yourself. Do this several times until you get the hang of it. You’ll eventually feel comfortable talking in front of the camera and, later on, in front of people.

3. Gather courage to talk to him/her.

Now that you’ve had some practice, you should be ready to talk to your “targeted” date. Approach him or her in the most natural way possible. Introduce yourself and give him/her time to talk, too. If you want, to be honest, you can tell him/her that you’ve always wanted to introduce yourself but “was too shy to do so until now.” This can give you plus points.

4. Get to know each other first before going on a date.

If you feel that you already know the person quite well, then, by all means, ask him/her on a date. However, if you’re still not comfortable and a little bit of shyness is still inside you, just relax and take your time. Get to know each other, so you’ll have a chance to get your nerves settled. But don’t take too long or you might lose your chance!

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