You like someone, and you want to go on a date with this someone. The problem is, you’re too shy! You don’t even know his/her name. You only know that he/she gets off from work at five in the afternoon. You know which restaurant he/she goes to at lunch. And you even know which subway he/she runs off to after work. But that’s it; that’s all you can do. Because you’re too shy.
There’s no need to worry now, though, because there are things you can do that can help you overcome your shyness.
1. Focus your energy on positive thoughts.
One of the things that contribute to your shyness is negative thinking. Erase all negative thoughts from your mind; from your life. It won’t be easy, but it can be done. Think of happy thoughts and people you love. Think of things you like and those that make you happy. And tell yourself that you are special and extraordinary. Write all these on a notebook or pad so you can easily read them every day. These are your affirmations. If you read or chant them every day, they will echo through your whole being until they eventually invade your thoughts and feelings.
2. Observe yourself in a video.
One of the best ways to see how others may perceive you to be is by making a video of yourself. Find a quiet place at home (or in the office, if you dare!), turn on your camera (DSLR or mobile phone cam will do), and start talking into it. Talk about anything. Don’t plan your actions or what you say. Just let yourself be. When you’re done, play the video and observe yourself. Do this several times until you get the hang of it. You’ll eventually feel comfortable talking in front of the camera and, later on, in front of people.
3. Gather courage to talk to him/her.
Now that you’ve had some practice, you should be ready to talk to your “targeted” date. Approach him or her in the most natural way possible. Introduce yourself and give him/her time to talk, too. If you want, to be honest, you can tell him/her that you’ve always wanted to introduce yourself but “was too shy to do so until now.” This can give you plus points.
4. Get to know each other first before going on a date.
If you feel that you already know the person quite well, then, by all means, ask him/her on a date. However, if you’re still not comfortable and a little bit of shyness is still inside you, just relax and take your time. Get to know each other, so you’ll have a chance to get your nerves settled. But don’t take too long or you might lose your chance!